Have you ever noticed that the things you want the most in life, are often the things that you find the most difficult to manifest?
I’m referring to those enormous life-changing things, that need to happen to get you where you want to be.
These things can take weeks, months, or years to receive and achieve, but sometimes if you are lucky, or perhaps if you are in a vibration of allowing, these things turn up almost instantly.
Why is that? What makes some things easier to attract than others?
My first encounter with the law of attraction took place when I was just four years old, on the final day of our family holiday to the seaside.
Being of a tiny, petite frame and experiencing being bashed about on those bouncy fairground castles, by children taller and older than me. I desperately wanted to find a bouncy castle all of my own.
A bouncy castle where I could leap around joyfully, free from being hurt, free from banged heads and I had decided this ultimate oasis of a bouncy castle would be red.
My Dad tried to prepare me for disappointment, explaining that, they would probably not be able to find a lonely bouncy castle. That it just wouldn’t happen — but that night, I squeezed my eyes tightly and willed, wished and believed that my magnificent big red bouncy castle would be found.
The next morning, I awoke, with the same conviction I had the night before. Our holiday was coming to an end, and later that day, we would all return home. My Dad, always one for short cuts, had decided we would take a more scenic route home.
As we made our journey home, I continued to imagine myself happily jumping care-free, running side to side on my beautiful red vision, with no fear of bruises or trodden toes.
We were driving passed fields and hedges of winding country roads. When out of the corner of my eye, I saw something in the distance. It was red, and it was popping out over the fields in the distance.
“Daddy,” I said
“Look — its a red bouncy castle.”
At the next juncture, my Dad turned the car down a little lane, and we approached the entrance to a Farmer’s field. As we entered the area, many vehicles were leaving; it was now early evening, about 6 pm. The grass in the field was flat, and it was clear that some kind of Summer Fair had taken place. As we approached the bouncy castle, I could see a man sat in front of the castle in a fold-up chair.
My Mum and I stayed inside the car while my Dad approached him. My heart was pounding. A conversation took place between them, and I eagerly anticipated whether I would get to realize my dream. My Dad looked back towards our car and gave me a nod with a great big grin on his face. I got out of the car and ran towards the bouncy castle.
I clambered on the bouncy red castle, and I bounced and jumped and ran from side to side, with jelly legs and sheer excitement. I can still feel the freedom of being able to jump without fear of ever being hit.
I had manifested my vision because I had had zero resistance to the possibility that it couldn’t be so. I had experienced the power of the Universe.
I had done it!
Clearly, as a four-year-old child, I didn’t know what the law of attraction was. Still, this experience ignited something inside of me, that would become a lifelong pursuit of finding out how to creatively visualize the things we wish to show up in our lives. The lessons I have learnt over the last 35 years continue to play a significant role in the work I do with others today.
Here are seven things that my four-year-old self taught me about the law of attraction and how we can realize our dreams successfully.
1. Be Specific
It' essential to be specific in your visualisations and be clear on what it is that you want. You first need to decide that this particular vision is 100% what you desire and then you need to start to build up those details of the vision.
Perhaps there have been times when you’ve tried to manifest something, but in reality, you’ve not been clear on what those precise details were. To do this, you have to use all of your senses. You have to use feelings and use descriptions and be as clear as you can.
2. Visualse in the Present Tense
You've probably heard this before, but you need to visualise your goals and dreams as if they were already here and in existence. This can sometimes be tricky, but it gets easier with practice.
You might also have people in your life who don’t believe in the law of attraction, who don’t understand in creative visualization or the art of manifesting. Perhaps they tell you that they have to see something first to believe that it exists. But to make this work, you will have to flip this notion on its head.
You'll need to believe it to see it first!
3. Use All of Your Senses in Your Visualisation
How we experience our life in the real world is through one, or a number of our senses. We can't experience our reality in any other way, apart from in our imaginations.
Think about it for a second. Right now, at this moment, you are seeing, feeling, smelling, tasting, and hearing your experience.
If you are lucky, you may also be sensing things. We all have this extra (super)power, but some people have greater developed sensory/intuitive perception than others. But don’t worry, if your sensing style isn’t quite there yet, the good news is you can develop this further.
When you want to visualize a new experience, you have to use all of your senses during the process and make the visualization as realistic as possible.
4. Meditate and Visualize Regularly
Now, this is easier said than done, because I don’t know about you, but I just don’t have the schedule or the luxury to create a regular morning or evening slot for meditating and visualizing. Instead, you’ll have to do what works best for you, which means making it a priority but also being realistic and doing what is going to work best for you in your current situation.
You could set a reminder on your phone or you could get into the habit whenever you are in the shower or the car, that instead of turning the radio on, you visualise your day ahead instead.
Using meditation and visualisation together helps release resistance, but also gets you into a meditative state that will help you to relax into your visualisation.
5. Feel the Joy and Excitement of Your Desired Visualization
OK, so this is a biggy!
You have got to feel excited. You need to feel the joy and have gratitude for what you are creating. You’ll have to embody with full appreciation the love for your expectant reality.
If you're not excited about your visions then I would urge you to rethink your vision because it should light you up inside.
Ask yourself, why is this vision exciting? Who am I going to call when this finally happens? How will my nearest and dearest react to this when it happens? Who is this going to benefit, and how are they going to react?
Harnessing happiness, joy, contentment, being happy and being you, is one of the biggest secrets to lovig a fulfilled life.
Being all of that should make you feel excited, and when you are excited, you’ll create amazing things.
6. Release Resistance and Develop a Healthy Appetite for Personal Development and Growth
It’s impossible to present to you a one size fits all approach to getting rid of all your resistance on everything that is holding you back in your life. Anyone who says they have a magic solution is not being truthful because we are all intrinsically different.
All of our experiences, our cultures, our thoughts about how we internalize things; they are all different. I encourage you to seek your truth and go on your own personal development journey. Over time this will help you to release whatever it is that has been holding you back.
Read books, watch webinars, listen to so-called gurus, but always do your due diligence and never buy anything on the proviso that it will solve all your problems and challenges – only you can do that.
All of the answers are there right inside of you. So never stop learning and growing and bettering yourself. As you continue to focus attention on your solutions, you’ll see any patterns of resistance start to fall away from you beautifully.
7. Take Inspired Action
There is no such thing as luck!
Preparation doesn’t need to be a skillset or a class you took. It could be the culmination of your life experiences. Everything happens divinely at the right point of time and is preparing you for something further down the line. If you make a wrong decision, it doesn’t matter, because the end destination is always the same.
When you start to use visualisation as a tool, you have to be willing to both surrender and then take inspired action on what you are trying to manifest. Abraham Hicks says:
“When you are consciously creating, when you are in the flow of the vortex when you are hopeful and believe it, you are there at the cusp, of manifesting your dreams and the doors will open.”
Other’s will say you are lucky; they might even be jealous of you. But you are not lucky; you just put in all the preparation, believed it would be so, and then took inspired action as the opportunities presented themselves to you.
If a four-year-old girl, can manifest a red bouncy castle in less than 24 hours, you can manifest anything in your life too. I think the beauty of being a child, means we don’t have some of the shackles of life, we don’t have all the experiences good and bad that act as a kind of blueprint, we don’t have the same amount of negative self-chatter that we seem to get so good at as adults.
We simply have a vision. We believe in that vision. We let that vision go and then we are open to receivig it.
Being specific, visualizing life as if it is already here, using all of your senses and using meditation and visualization together to release resistance will all help you along the way.